The gloves (and the ring!) came off at the Let’s Marry Harry: The Reunion. Almost a year after the cameras stopped rolling, the man himself sat across from his former fiancées — and nothing was off limits.
Hosted by Haley Baylee, the reunion was the first time Harry Jowsey and the 20 women who hoped to turn him into husband material met face to face to address everything that went down in the mansion. After connecting, cohabitating, and, yes, some spit-swapping, the Australian heartthrob ultimately wed Amber in the finale, leaving Dannelle, his other strongest connection, heartbroken, and the rest of us wondering if the two are still together today.
But the reunion made it clear that “I do” was far from the end of the story. Keep reading for everything you need to know about all the drama that went down after the wedding day, across social media, and on the reunion couches.
After filming wrapped, the honeymoon phase kept going, at least for a little while. Harry flew to Hawaii to meet Amber’s friends and family, then Amber returned the favor by heading to Australia. But keeping a marriage under wraps — on top of the actual distance between Hawaii and Harry’s home in Los Angeles — turned out to be more than the relationship could carry. A few months later, Amber and Harry called it quits.
“It definitely wasn’t an easy decision,” Harry tells Tudum. “It was really difficult, but I couldn’t be more grateful to share the whole experience with her.”
Amber is also grateful she met Harry, but she doesn’t hold back on why she believes the relationship ended. “Your reality is shaped by experiences that you’ve had in life and how you deal with them,” she tells Tudum. “I’m going to tell you, as his ex-wife, [Harry] doesn’t have a grip on real life. And that’s just the truth.”
Looking back now, Amber admits Harry is far from her typical type. “I hadn’t met anything like him ever,” she says. “We’re not what each other is used to. Maybe that’s what magnetized us.”
Prior to the show, Amber had recently gone through a breakup, and says she was ready for someone to bring out a more fun side of herself. “And that really got me excited about Harry.” Unfortunately, what initially brought them together eventually pulled them apart. “Later down the line, I found that he was not hungry for the same things,” Amber says. “And we have the same goals, but not the same methods.”
Harry sees their breakup a little differently, pointing to the constraints of dating in the public eye. “We were not allowed to be in public together and that’s hard in a new relationship,” Harry tells Tudum — never mind the small matter of the Pacific Ocean between them. “It was really unfair for me to expect Amber to uproot her life and move to LA.”
Amber took it a step further at the reunion, alleging, “You met your girlfriend on our fucking honeymoon.” Harry pushed back on this timeline, maintaining he and Amber had already ended things. Amber was not dissuaded: “If I was allowed my phone, I’d show you guys.”
Unfortunately, things didn’t cool down after filming wrapped on the reunion. On the way out, Amber threw her wedding ring at Harry. “Go fuck yourself,” she told him. “This ends here.”
“Leave me alone,” Harry responded, visibly angry. “I want nothing to do with you.”
Right up to the end, Dannelle was convinced Harry would pick her. “I just felt so sure of our connection that I couldn’t wrap my head around anything else,” she tells Tudum. After Harry ended their engagement, Dannelle assumed he wasn’t ready for marriage. “I just remember saying, ‘If he’s not marrying me today, he’s not getting married,’” she recalls.
Later that day, she learned Harry had chosen Amber, which shattered any illusion that they might continue their relationship after the show ended. “If he was like, ‘I still want to see where things go,’ I would’ve been open to it at the time,” Dannelle says.
At the reunion, Dannelle shared her theory about why Harry ultimately chose Amber. “He knew how serious I was, how committed I was to him. I was ready to walk down the aisle,” she says. “I think he wasn’t so ready, and maybe Amber wasn’t so ready either, and she might’ve just been the safe option.”
After a couple of weeks of “crying hysterically,” Dannelle was in a better headspace when Harry finally called to check in. “It was really nice to have that conversation with him,” she tells Tudum. “It was kind of closing the door on the experience.” But the door didn’t stay closed for long. He reached out again to let her know he and Amber had split up. “I went to LA within a couple of days of that and stayed with him for a weekend.”
Spoiler alert: it didn’t work out. “He said he’s not ready for a girlfriend,” she says. “So then I’m crying at the airport, heartbroken again.”
Amber tells the story differently, calling Dannelle a “home-wrecker” at the reunion and claiming she and Harry were still together when he reconnected with his runner-up. “He told me he was single,” Dannelle says. “And you believed him?” Amber fires back. “The man who dumped you in a wedding dress?” Still, most of Amber’s frustration is aimed at Harry. “This man played us both,” she tells Dannelle. “At the end of the day I’m disappointed in you, but I’m more disappointed in him.”
Sam, who was in the final three alongside Amber and Dannelle, didn’t hold back at the reunion. “I was fucking pissed,” she says, referring to how she felt about Harry lying to her about sleeping with Amber. “I was right so many times, and he had so many opportunities to come forward and share his truth. He framed it like he was trying to protect Amber. Amber didn’t give a shit.” It wasn’t the fact that Harry had been with other women that bothered her. “That’s his business,” she says. “Just be honest.”
Looking back on their final moments together, Sam recalls a tense exchange at the bar after he met her mom. She made it clear she’d rather talk than spend the night together — and Harry’s exit was less than smooth. “This was not shown,” Sam says. “As he was leaving, he was like, ‘See you at eliminations tomorrow,’ finger guns and all.” Was it a hint that he was sending her home? She left before she could find out.
Sam has yet to hear from Harry directly since filming ended. “Not one word,” she tells Tudum. Despite the radio silence, she hopes he found what he was looking for. “He deserves someone who can reciprocate the love and respect he gives. Interpret that however you want.”
Not every ending gets a tidy bow. Emma, who traveled to Las Vegas with Harry, received a text from him two hours after he sent her home. “Ironically, we’re way better at being friends than we ever were at dating,” she says.
Abby, who has also remained friendly with Harry, spoke up at the reunion to spill the tea about how close the two got while filming. According to her, she and Harry hooked up the same day as her group date with Rickiyah — before anything happened with Amber. “The production vans were pretty comfy,” Abby says. “We didn’t have mics on, we’re in the back of the van, holding hands. One thing led to another.”
Meanwhile, a handful of women, like Mya, Sammy, and Elli, found Harry in their DMs shortly after things ended with Amber. “We’ve exchanged a few friendly Instagram messages, including ‘reow’ and ‘looking extra milky today,’” Elli tells Tudum. “And a few voice memos.” Sammy has a slightly different message for her former fiancé: “Keep looking into the Bible. I hope he truly finds Jesus.”
Despite the roller coaster of a six-week engagement and an on-camera wedding, Harry still believes he’s ready for marriage. “Maybe [the show] just wasn’t the perfect environment for me,” he says. “But it was a wild, beautiful journey, and it really taught me to slow down and just to take it day by day.”
These days, Harry is dating someone new (no, not Dannelle). “I am in the most amazing relationship right now, and I think that I got very lucky to have this person in my life,” he says. At the reunion, he even went so far to hint that he might be ready to marry again. “I don’t want to get ahead of myself, but I found the perfect person that makes me want to be a husband.”
Watch Let’s Marry Harry: The Reunion, now streaming, to learn more about Harry’s life after Let’s Marry Harry and hear from the rest of the former fiancées.
